George Berkeley once asked, “if a tree falls in the forest and no one hears it, does it make a sound?”
If I were to translate this question as a stay-at-home mom today, I would ask, “if a mama empties the dishwasher but doesn’t document it, did it really happen?”
Both of these questions involve our perceptions of life and the world around us. I have been thinking about this as I consider the purpose of social media in my life.
Many people use social media in a constructive way but I have struggled to find that balance in my own life. While I wasn't super involved on Instagram, I stressed a lot over what I should post (resulting in me rarely posting but scrolling all of the time).
As I went about my day, I found myself wondering whether any of my day was worth sharing on Instagram. As I dwelt on this question, it felt dangerous to go about my days, judging my time at home with my kids and my work around the house based on how shareable it was on Instagram.
Do I believe that my days are meaningful and worthwhile whether or not anyone has ANY idea what I do all day? There were plenty of days I didn't live as if I believed this was true.
Of course, getting the word out and genuinely sharing what is going on in our lives can serve a purpose and help us become more connected. However, I started to feel more distracted, burned out and less peace-filled, the more I used Instagram.
I have also felt a pull to lean more into my ordinary, daily life and I struggled with how to share about that on social media.
Posting on my blog allows me to write simply without worrying about if it is Instagram-worthy. I write partially to document my journey toward progress over perfection as a mama and overcoming procrastination and overwhelm. I also hope to be a resource for other mamas who are wondering if they are the only ones who have these struggles.
At this point, I'm going to keep writing but I'm not going to try to include all of the photos and the daily play by play on social media.
If you're on social media, this is by no means a call to destroy any and all social media accounts. I know many people who are able to connect with whole communities of people they wouldn't otherwise know without social media.
However, if using social media is not fostering peace or positively influencing your life, it may be worth taking a break for the time being. It doesn't have to be forever.
I may return to Instagram or another social media platform but until then, you can find me here, typing away and I plan to focus on reaching out to my email subscribers.
Moving forward, you can count on tips for focusing on progress over perfection and obliterating procrastination. I will also share what has (and hasn't) been working for me and reading I am doing on these topics.
Thanks for reading. I am so glad you are here!