Are you an avoider (one who actively avoids what she is supposed to be doing at any given moment)?
If so, I can relate because I am a recovering, chronic avoider. I didn't even consider myself a procrastinator because at least procrastinators get things done at the last minute. As an avoider, I tried not to do something altogether.
It's tempting to chalk it up to having three sons within 3.5 years but I avoided things prior to having children. It stemmed from a combination of feeling paralyzed by the fear of failure, obsession with a perfect outcome and just plain laziness. Until the last year or two, I spent the majority of my days trying to avoid what I was supposed to be doing. I share more about how I started getting things done here.
I compiled a list of encouraging words to remind myself and anyone else struggling with avoider tendencies. It is worth it to take small steps in the right direction now instead of waiting for the perfect moment or opportunity to begin.
Encouragement for Avoiders (and Procrastinators)
Start with one thing. Just one. You don't have to do all of the things at once.
Which one thing? Start with the task at hand. What is the task that is right in front of you? Do that.
You are not alone and you are not the only person who finds this difficult. It's okay to struggle but you may need to be intentional about finding something that works.
It seems too difficult? That doesn't mean you should avoid it. If it's difficult, practice. Try. Practicing will help you overcome the difficulty and you will build confidence in yourself and your ability.
This work is worthwhile. By completing this task, you are building good habits, choosing virtue over vice and you are providing a good example for your children.
Sure, you could do it tomorrow but this is today. By tackling it today, you will be less frazzled and you will feel more peaceful and productive than if you leave it until tomorrow.
Strive for progress over perfection. It may not be perfect or pretty but by getting it done, you are taking small steps in the right direction.
Are you afraid you will fail? Maybe you will fail but you are failing right now but not doing it. It is better to try than to avoid what you're supposed to be doing.
That unsettled and unproductive feeling will go away little by little as you start tackling the task at hand.
You will experience freedom. By doing what you're supposed to be doing when you're supposed to be doing it, you will feel free. Free to think about other things (rather than trying to justify in your mind why you don't need to do x, y, or z right now).
You are worth it. This work is worth it. Start with one thing - the task at hand and see how you're doing after that. Then move on to the next thing.
You can do it.