Mental Hurdle #1: I hate doing laundry. It's the worst. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it.
Solution: It’s okay not to like doing laundry. It's even okay to hate doing laundry.
However, even if we hate doing laundry, we still have to do it. This sounds eerily like trying to reason with my preschooler but sometimes my attitudes look similar to my four year old's attitude. So much of parenting is watching my kids exhibit good and bad parts of my interior life which I find endearing and horrifying.
At first, getting laundry done required me to buckle down and do it. However, gritting my teeth just to get through it didn't produce lasting results. I needed a change in mindset.
See this post from The Lazy Genius Collective to unpack why it's actually important to acknowledge these feelings toward laundry. Also, she is a GIF master so it's totally worth it for the GIFs alone.
Mental Hurdle #2: I forget about laundry. Or I "forget" about laundry. Either way, I develop serious amnesia whenever I start a load of laundry.
Solution: Determine the reason for the forgetfulness and conquer it.
I was the laundry-forgetting MASTER. Sometimes, I honestly forgot about the laundry, especially when our washer/dryer was in the basement (now it's on the same floor as the bedrooms and it is much harder to avoid). Life can be CHAOTIC and trying to remember that a load of laundry needs to be switched over is sometimes the furthest thing from a mama's mind. If you find you are forgetful due to chaos, set a reminder on your phone, add it to your calendar or write yourself stickey notes.
However, sometimes I'd "forget" about the laundry. I would actively work against myself. I'd remember I needed to switch over the laundry but I'd "do just one more thing" first. And then it'd be nap time so I'd tell myself "I'd switch it over after naps." If I distracted myself long enough, I would totally forget about it. All the while, the laundry would never get done. Obviously, this is not a great mode of operation.
Overall, I would forget (or "forget") about doing laundry because I wasn't convicted it was worthwhile. It felt meaningless and mundane and I chose to distract myself with other things. I needed a shift in mindset to turn the seemingly mundane task of laundry into something more meaningful. I acknowledged that by getting the laundry done, our family would experience greater order and freedom to tackle whatever may come our way each day.
When I finally decided to make laundry a priority, I allowed myself to believe that getting laundry done is important and worthwhile. I scheduled my day in a way that allowed me to get it done, and I haven't forgotten about laundry since my shift in mindset. It also helps that I have committed to once-a-week laundry.
Mental Hurdle #3: I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to laundry. Maybe if I ignore it, it will go away.
Solution: Find a system that works for you. It may require a lot of trial and error but it is worthwhile.
In my experience, part of my disdain for laundry came from a place of incompetence. I didn't have a great system in place and I felt like I was a hamster stuck on the wheel of never-ending laundry. I was doing laundry but could never get on top of it. I didn't have a method to my madness and I needed a system that worked for me.
When I started to do once-a-week laundry, it didn't solve all of my problems but it let me breath for two seconds and see life beyond laundry. I was motivated to try it again the next week and a routine was quickly established.
Which mental hurdle do you find most difficult? I'd love to hear what you have found to be helpful. Comment below!